Tuesday, November 30, 2004

I miss Ibrahim

I have arrived in Amman just 2 days ago, but it feels like it's been ages since I last saw Ibrahim... it really isn't a nice feeling! I really miss him a lot :(

It's only been two years since we got married, but I have grown really attached to my cute tall husband :) in no time, he became the sunshine of my heart!

Habibi Barhoom :) I can't wait till I am home again... that is, wherver you are :)

Wednesday, November 24, 2004

Definitions

Diplomat :
A person who tells you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip

Boss :
Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early

Smile :
A curve that can set a lot of things straight

Introduction to Arab/Muslim community

Today, Tanya El Lakkany held a gathering at her place to introduce me to the Muslim/Arab community in Victoria, and it was wonderful! I cannot believe how sweet she is!

We had met Tanya, her husband Hatem, and their three-year-old Maya on the first day of Eid. They invited us over for tea to celebrate Eid Al Fitr (again, sweet!)...

I am really tired, and cannot think... just wanted to get it on the record that I am starting to feel like I am at home now! And that I am happy we met Tanya, Hatem and Maya :)

Monday, November 22, 2004

In the media

http://www.citizen-times.com/cache/article/print/70397.shtml

CITIZEN-TIMES.com
Why Muslims around world hate us, and what most Americans don't know about our policies
By SPECIAL TO CITIZEN-TIMES

Nov. 6, 2004 2:14 p.m.


I am surprised and disappointed that in the three years since Sept. 11, 2001, I have never heard or seen the media or our administration ask the question "why?" Why do they hate us so intensely that dozens of men (hijackers) would plan and carry out their own deaths along with nearly 3,000 innocent Americans? Why did Abu Mussab al-Zarqawi, now number one on the U.S. wanted list, behead two U.S. civilian workers last month? When asked why he hated the U.S., he said "The occupation" ("Sixty Minutes," Sept. 26). For the past 50 years, the Israeli occupation of Palestine and the U.S. support of Israel in that occupation has been the main reason for that intense hatred. Recently what many Muslims consider "the occupation of Iraq" has added fuel to that hatred.


Immediately after the infamous Sabra-Shatilla massacre in Beirut in 1982, Tom Friedman and I witnessed the horrors of that massacre where more than 2,000 women and children and old men had been murdered under the flares of Israeli Gen. Ariel Sharon's army. Friedman won the Pulitzer Prize for International Journalism for his report (New York Times, Sept. 26, 1982). Sharon was found personally responsible by the Israeli-appointed Kahane Commission for what happened in the camps, was forced to step down as defense minister and spent the next several years in internal exile on his farm, ostensibly never to serve in public office again. He has been indicted by a court in Brussels, and today cannot travel to Belgium, where he would be tried as a war criminal.


For two months I worked in two bombed-out Palestinian hospitals. I saw blood on the walls of the nursery where newborns had been bashed against the wall, and I can tell you why they hate us. Palestinian hospitals had been bombed by the Israeli planes, in spite of red crosses on their roofs.


Dr. James Zogby, founder and president of the Arab American Institute and former Batten Professor at Davidson College recently stated that, "Positive attitudes towards Americans are between 3 and 9 percent in all Arab countries that we polled. Our leadership has failed us. Since Vietnam ended we have spent more money, sent more troops and invested more political capital in the Middle East than anywhere else in the world, yet we find ourselves in a war that we cannot win. . Arabs hate American policies, and those policies have actually put Americans in more danger than they were before the invasion of Iraq" (The Davidsonian, Sept. 22).
Rabbi Michael Lerner, editor of Tikkun, demands of the Israeli government, "Stop the beatings, stop the breaking of bones, stop the late night raids on people's homes, stop using food as a weapon of war, stop pretending that you can respond to an entire people's agony with guns and power" ("Beyond Occupation", Reuther and Ellis, Boston, Beacon Press, p. 100). Palestinian children who were caught throwing stones had their hands crushed and adults had their leg bones broken by Israeli soldiers.


Harvard professor Sara Roy, whose parents were survivors of the Holocaust, can tell you why they hate us. She first went to the West Bank and Gaza in 1985 to conduct fieldwork for her doctoral dissertation. She says, "I was reminded of the Holocaust when Israeli soldiers painted identification numbers on Palestinian arms - and openly admit to shooting Palestinian children for sport" (Journal of Palestinian Studies, Vol. XXXII, No. 1, Autumn 2002, Issue 125).
In 1999 B'Tselem, an Israeli human rights organization, reported that - "Of more than 1000 Palestinians detained last year, at least 850 were tortured." The Sunday Times, London, June 19, 1977 reported - "Israeli interrogators routinely ill-treat and torture Arab prisoners. Prisoners are hooded or blindfolded and are hung by their wrists for long periods. Most are struck in the genitals or in other ways sexually assaulted. Others are administered electric shock." Does this sound like Abu Ghraib? Israel did sign the U.N. Convention Against Torture in 1991.


I ask you, why do most Europeans and Muslims around the world know these facts and most people in the U.S. never heard them?


Am I being anti-Semitic when I describe these horrors? No, I am being anti-terrorist and joining Rabbi Lerner, Sara Roy and thousands of other Jews, Muslims, Buddhist and Christians, YMCA executives, agriculturists and missionaries who have all witnessed these horrors and demand changes in our government's policies. All of these people can tell us "Why they hate us." Actually it is not us, the people, they hate. They love us and would love to come here. It is our policies that they hate.


From childhood I have been taught that when you have a problem, look for and remove the cause of that problem. A festering splinter or thorn will continue to fester until it is removed. If a small fraction of the billions spent on the war in Iraq had been spent feeding the hungry - demanding justice for the Palestinians - working with the United Nations to stop genocide in Sudan and other places - we might have more friends and fewer people hating us.
When our government and the government of Israel asks the question "Why do they hate us?" and truly starts working to make friends around the world, maybe the ever deepening quagmire in Israel and Iraq will begin to improve.


When the occupation of Iraq and Palestine ceases and when the destruction of homes and the killing of innocent civilians stops, maybe we will see a rainbow of hope on the horizon. There will be no peace in the Middle East - or in the world - until the occupations cease.


Dr. John K. Wilson is formerly an associate clinical professor of pediatrics, University of Virginia Medical School. He served as a missionary in Korea, and has worked in refugee camps in Cambodia, Somalia and Beirut. He lives in Black Mountain and can be reached at jkwndw@aol.com.


Friday, November 12, 2004

Our home


Our apartment is on the 2nd floor :) lots of windows, lots of natural light, and a BEAUTIFUL view :)

View from our apartment

"The cradle and the grave"



It is the most fascinating natural phenomenon we have seen so far: three kinds of salmon swim every fall from the ocean upstream to this river in Goldstream Provincial Park to lay their eggs. Unfortunately, some of them die on the way, but a lot of them do make it. The females who make it dig holes that can be up to half a meter in depth, and then lay their eggs (they spawn around 400 eggs each time!). The male then fertilizes the eggs. The process is repeated until each female has laid close to 3,000 eggs! Weak and exhausted, most of them just die within 10 days of arriving at the river... and you get what you see in the photo: a fish cemetery!

You will also see the scavengers; seagulls and eagles (we only saw seagulls) feeding on the dead and dying fish!

It was sad to see all this dead salmon... but when we learned what they died for, it kind of made us feel better!

Wednesday, November 10, 2004

The new competition

Well, just now, I learned one great piece of news!

There is going to be yet another new addition to our family of friends... Name and gender are yet to be determined :)

Maha and Salim: I have no doubt you will be exceptional parents... I just wish I were there to witness it all :(

Congrats! parents-to-be :):):) We love and miss you a lot!

Introducing Sanad!



Today, I decided to acknowledge the existence of someone I have never met in person, but who we have grown to love dearly, and with whom I have conversed over the phone (or at least I like to think I have!)... Ladies and gentlemen, I introduce SANAD :) the latest addition to our family of friends!

Sanad is Dalia and Duri Al Ajrami's first born, and I must say, a fine seed that turned out to be :)

I just wish Ibrahim and I were there around him, to watch him grow (well, yes, and help too!)... ah well... we are just looking forward towards having him all to ourselves when this lovely family moves to Canada (hopefully before we leave??)

Sanad: welcome to our world :) I know you are probably having the time of your life... bas ta3al, and we promise new highs you have never experienced :)

Dalia and Duri: if there is anything we can do across the continents, please do let us know :)

Thursday, November 04, 2004

Rulers of the Arab world: sad but true

It is rather sad how our leaders perceive themselves as immortals!
I cannot believe that Yasser Arafat has not even appointed a successor!

Prepare for a new era of agony and torture as the Israelis are actually celebrating Arafat's illness! How worse can these people be?

Wednesday, November 03, 2004

e-mail from Mohsen and Lucy

Below is an e-mail I received from my parents-in-law, Mohsen and Lucy...
Aren't they the cutest and most adorable in-laws you've ever heard of?!
I really miss them a lot!

From Lucy:
dear toto

today we took the roller coaster for the first time in egypt. it was the microbuz. you can not imagine how he was moving and chasing the cars and.... and.... then we took a taxi. inside it was like a night club with the loud speakers at the back seat near our ears and the song was el saada mish nasebna.... and in front of the wheel a red heart twinkling and a crystal ball with red light coming out...and it seems all the people left their homes and are walking in the streets .... i miss you so much... take care .. lucy


From Mohsen:

dearest toto

thanks a lot for your email. we felt you were with us.actually we remembered you once we entered our flat. we found your small letters to us scattered all over the house.you konw the small notes you stuck here and there. they are so funny.

the first two days were so hectic. i had to fix the car and to renew the licence. now the BIG car is running like a Rolls Royce.

i can not describe the first two days to you. dust...heat....pollution.....crowds....traffic.you feel quite lost especially after returning from the north west. my eyes were glassy and watery from the pollution and my throat was aching and scratchy from the dust. i felt something was wrong. and i felt i was sick.however, today i feel a lot better.

iam writing to you from home. i asked Kareem, samia's son to remind me how to connect through a short cut.....through an icon on the desk top.so now i can connect immediately to yahoo mail.

write to us frequently. you are our only contact on air....... and that is plenty for us.

bye 7abeebee and take care.

mohsen

Monday, November 01, 2004

Alone

Ibrahim left to Toronto yesterday to get some basic training for his job, so I am here in Victoria alone!

Being me, I am scared to death at night :) I start imagining all sorts of ghosts and criminals closing in on me, and convince myself that I am being watched and followed :)

To add to my natural silly fears, there is Halloween! People went crazy in the past couple of days around here; our neighbors erected a grave-yard in front of their house! They even had an open tomb!!! Of course, there were also the beheaded man with the talking pumpkin, and the wicked witch who was staring her magic potion in her big pot... and the moving ghost!!!

All movies on TV were horror and ghost movies! I saw "The Others" (and I liked it a lot, especially that Ibrahim was with me then!), but could not get myself to watch "The Blair Witch Project"... I am happy I didn't actually :)

Then, to top things off, last night, Discovery Channel played a documentary about exorcism :(:(:(

Today, I am trying to study for my road sign test, and of course, I cannot concentrate! It is pouring cats and dogs outside... and I am alone :( ya mamaaaaaa